Thursday, July 14, 2011

Fragile Thoughts












Breakups always find away to get on to me .



I get overwhelmed ! I cry ! I get depressed even if it is someone I barely know broke up with someone I don't "never " knew !



Just the Breakup IDEA freaks me out . feel pitty for the girl /woman whoever ! and whatever !



yes, I always sympathise the woman part regardless of the reason / why did they broke up for !



I only care that two are now apart , and the woman is all devastated , even if she didn't complain about it ! even if she's doing well in hiding it ! even though !



I am all with women ! I admit.



coz all I have seen along my life proved that woman is always the victim and man has been always the muderer.for sure there had been some exceptions , but I repeat EXCEPTIONS where men were the victims , and even that I didn't totally believe !






That one I don't know , who bumped into me yesterday , and later I got to know that she broke up with hew husband-tobe , actually they were mid way there ! as they were officially married , only the wedding was left , that is what we do in Egypt and call it KATB KETAB phase .






so she not only broke up with a guy , a friend , a fiance , no a HUSBAND ! Whom she had dreams to be wedded to . to share a life with !



I bet that was HARSH Man !!






I couldn't sleep since I have known of the news ! I was sad ! and I wished I never knew . maybe she is stronger than me , and could handle it !



I pray she is ! I am sure what drives a wife to get divorced is something major that she knows for sure she can't live with ! and also , I am sure he didn't well play his role ! coz all women can be easily " yede7ek 3alaihom " can let go of the pain if you give'em comfort and make it ease on them ! we can overcome men 's mistakes , we can try to forgive and forget , we only need to see you paying for it , and playing hard to get .






So , if that woman went for divorce , and it is not a process that can be done over day and night ! it takes days and weeks and sometimes months or years ! so I am sure that , he could have done everything to make her forgive / forget whatever he did ! unless he too wanted to get rid of this marriage !






My brains nor my nerves can get a Breakup nor handle it . I used to believe in fairytales , I am the one in love with teens movies and "only you " serendipity type .



I always seek happy endings in movies , and I hate them if they come out without one !






I believe love shall survive and lon live.



I believe lovers shall always fight for their love and not easily let go .






I even can't get if two in love , why don't they get married whatever what ! they should do it !



live in a hut ! eat whatsoever ! they should get married we khalas !! against all odds!






back to katb ketab phase, that makes me wonder if getting married officially , before wedding date , is it preferable or not ? for me, myself I find the best thing to do ! However in some cases it ends up in sucha way , with a divorce = breakup . and a divorce is not easily dealt with ! especially here in our Eastern societies.



But , the right is right. and the katb ketab is the righteous thing to do , early in engagement ..that is 7alal .



what should be done should be done , and the Katb ketab what should be done.



and no matter it is difficult in its break up , it is still teh right thing to do, and if you please God , for sure God will make it reflect on you and ppl around you .






That got me drifted away , with katb Ketab issue and Breakup one.



I still feel I am filled with Fragile thoughts ! alot .



to be continued.